Have you ever wondered why you sometimes feel so internally troubled and uncomfortable?
And of course when we become aware of these problems we are willing to put in the work to change them and better ourselves.
More than often we fail. Think about it, how many times have you tried to go on a diet only to quit after a couple of weeks? Or plan to finally go to the gym but after 3 months you still haven’t spent one hour in a gym? Or maybe you feel like you’re lazy and need some motivation to get going, but you don’t know where and what exactly motivates you?
You try tactic after tactic, advice after advice, read book after book.
But the problem still exists.
I know I tried many times and failed many times.
This will surely cause anyone to feel unhappy. Sometimes we might even think that something is wrong with us. Why can’t we make it happen?
But you know what, in most cases, these problems are not caused by a physical ailment, but by a weakness of the mind – a weakness that urges us to avoid discomfort.
Why because discomfort allows us to step out of our bubble; our precious comfort zone.Discomfort is the feeling you get when you step outside of your comfort zone.Click To Tweet
Take exercising, for example, the idea of going to the gym, do some push-ups for 60 minutes and repeat that over a 5 day period every week brings so much discomfort in people’s mind that they will find every excuse in the book to not go to the gym. They will blame the weather, their job, their workout shoe and so on.
Knowing very well that the body is in need of some good calorie burning exercises.
The same with going from an unhealthy diet to a healthy one. People will find a way to skip their healthy diet for an unhealthy one.
The same with stopping procrastination, starting to meditate or complete a task.
However these are just examples of discomfort because different people find discomfort in different things with different reasons and different ways to react to it, but you get the idea.
We just don’t want to be uncomfortable so we run from things that make us feel uncomfortable. We hide in our comfort zone.
And I get it, being uncomfortable at first makes us insecure, afraid and doubtful.
At the same time not eating healthy, exercising enough or procrastinating will also make you feel so very unhappy every day. So the best thing to do is to step outside of your comfort zone.
The comfort zone.
The comfort zone keeps us in the bubble that we live in, it keeps us doing more of the things we like to do and less of the uncomfortable things we should be doing.
We run from uncomfortable activities because they don’t fit into our comfort zone.
Even though the comfort zone keeps us going in our everyday life, it diminishes our super powers.
How? You ask. The comfort zone is relatively small, with limited opportunities for growth.
Think about it for a second. The things you like to do on an everyday basis are very few and since the comfort zone is so small we miss out on life’s greatest and healthiest experiences.
Take meditation for example, for the longest you have wanted to meditate because you know it brings peace of mind and strengthens the will, but because you know the that the first thing that happens when you sit in a quiet space are many unpleasant thoughts that you rather not deal makes you feel so weird and uncomfortable that you chose to go out with friends instead.
Of course, continuing such acts will not only worsen the condition but you will also become very very unhappy.
Keep in mind the comfort zone is not necessarily a bad thing, we all need to feel comfortable in life, but not too comfortable. When you become too comfortable you feel stagnant and stuck. That is why it’s good to shake the tables in your own life sometimes.
How to do that you ask, by practicing a simple, yet very powerful tactic every day. The tactic of acceptance.
Amazingly, the simple act of accepting a little discomfort every day, and taking it one small step at a time, can solve most of our common problems, and make our minds happier, healthier and stronger in the long run.
Acceptance Strengthens the Mind and the body …….. one step at a time.
No human being can be truly committed to any goal if you have a weak mind. A weak mind is a mind that is unable to be uncomfortable.
A weakness of the mind is a true dream killer, ask yourself how many times you had planned to do something but always end up not doing it?
The only way to fix this is by first accepting yourself 100% for who you are at the moment and secondly by the daily practice of what you want to do.
The mind needs everyday practice for it is just like a muscle in the body, it will only strengthen when you practice daily. It needs to be worked consistently to grow and develop over time.
Mental strength is built through lots of small, daily victories. It’s the individual choices we make day-to-day that builds our “mental” muscles.
We all want this kind of strength, but we can’t think our way to it. If you want it, you have to do something about it ritualistically. It’s your positive daily rituals that prove your mental fortitude in the long run.
How to Get Comfortable strengthening the mind
You only strengthen the mind by doing small uncomfortable things one at a time.
At first, you might find this a daunting idea, but it actually is not, if you just take it one step at a time to build the mental strength necessary you’ll soon see results.
Of course, the very first times you are going to try something completely new you will feel yourself resisting, your mind will make a gazillion excuses. But the key here is to keep going, soon enough you’ll turn discomfort into comfort.
The beauty in this is soon enough ( when you start to see results) you’ll fall in love with that very thing you’ve felt so uncomfortable about and you’ll want to do it every day.
Turning discomfort in comfort has a magic in itself, it is the biggest key to long-term happiness and success and your life will be filled with fewer limits and a lot more opportunities.
The point here is to go in the directions of your fears. Like master Oogway said: “ One often meets his destiny on the road he takes to avoid it”.
The key to turning an uncomfortable situation into a comfortable one is to stop overthinking. Just like Nike would say, just do it. Don’t overthink it, just do it. Overthinking leaves the door open for doubt. And of course, in the beginning, you won’t like it much but after a while, it will start to feel good, and you’ll want to do it more often because you’ll totally love it.
Follow the tips above and you will gradually learn that discomfort can be a very good thing – when you’re doing uncomfortable things (that are in alignment with what your purpose), you’re trying new things, you’re learning, you’re expanding, you’re becoming more than you ever were before.
Discomfort, in most cases, is a sign that your – mind and body alike – are growing stronger… and growing closer to becoming the person you always dreamed you could be.
How have you been avoiding (necessary) discomfort in your life? What’s the next small step you will take to make progress?